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Did you know that the period between birth to three years of age is the fastest rate of brain development across the entire human lifespan? Talking and reading to your child can help stimulate brain development and deepen the bond between you and your child.

So what are some great books to read to your children?

I talked with Dr. Danielle Fernandes on Facebook Live about the books that we love to develop emotional resilience in children. Check out the video below!



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As a pediatrician, I know how to prescribe medication, but it was only until I became a mother that I truly began to understand the challenges of actually giving medication to children.

Now let’s face it. Most children hate taking medication and will do anything to avoid it. But there are a few tricks we can use to make this process easier for both parent and child. Here is what other parents and pediatricians have taught me through the years.

1) Make it fun

I’m a sucker for dark chocolate. It’s my guilty pleasure. Actually, I don’t feel any guilt at all while eating it…so it’s just plain pleasure. Nothing makes me happier than coming home after a long day and biting into a piece of pure bliss.

But without fail, if my daughter witnesses me eating anything at all…she wants some also. Now, I’m not that bad of a mother…I do share (besides those times I hid in the bathroom just to have chocolate for myself).

The point of this story is that most of the time, our children want exactly what we are having. So why not use this technique with medication too?

If you are giving medication in a syringe or a spoon, a game that a lot of parents play is to have mom and dad also drink a similar liquid from a syringe (or pretend to) and just as nature designed it, your child will want exactly what you are having!

I have even heard from parents who have tea parties with their child where everyone would go around the table and drink their cup of ‘medicine’.

Children inspire our creativity, so make it a fun and bonding experience!

2) Make it sweet

Since we’re on the topic of chocolate and how it makes everything better, here is a trick that I learned about relatively recently.

If you are giving medication through a syringe, you can put 1/2 ml of chocolate syrup in the syringe, followed by the medication and then end with another 1/2 ml of chocolate syrup. So it starts and ends with chocolate!

Seriously, how did I know about this trick before? It’s genius!

As always, please check with your pharmacist to verify that the medication can be mixed with chocolate syrup. If so, you are set.

3) Make it invisible

Sometimes as a parent, you are left with no choice but to be sneaky. If your child is absolutely refusing to take the medication, it’s time to hide it.

You can mix the medicine in a small amount of juice, applesauce, yogurt or even milk. Just make sure that your child drinks/eats the entire portion that you give them to make sure they get full dosage of the medication.

Remember to check with your pharmacist to make sure that particular medication can be hidden in drinks or foods.

4) Make it easier

One of the most eye-opening experiences as a pediatrician for me has been to actually taste the medication I sometimes prescribe. Some of them taste absolutely horrible! It’s hard to imagine a child swallowing them without a fight.

With that being said, many medications can be flavored to make them more palatable. You can even ask your pharmacist about different forms of the medication such as chewable tablets or rectal suppositories.

In cases, where there are no other options, another trick is to bypass the taste buds completely by squirting the syringe directly inside the cheek into the back of the mouth. This way, your child won’t taste too much of it. This method isn’t perfect, but it tends to work.

5) Make it cold

Having your child suck on ice chips before taking the medicine can numb the taste buds and make the medicine easier to swallow. If the medication can be refrigerated, cooling it for a bit can also help it go down easier.

As a parent, it is incredibly hard to see your child sick. And the struggle of getting your child to take medication can add to the stress everyone is experiencing. Hopefully these tips will help getting through this time just a little bit easier.


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Okay, let’s be real.

Motherhood is an incredible blessing and amazing…but at times it’s also frustrating and completely exhausting.

I have officially entered the parenting stage that I have talked about with parents for years! It’s called the terrible twos.

If you have ever wondered exactly what happens to children when they reach the magical age of two, then this might help.

In 1972, a study done by Beulah Amsterdam from the University of North Carolina tested 88 infants between the ages of 6 and 24 months. After putting a spot of rouge on their noses, the infants were placed in front of a mirror. The mothers then pointed at the reflection in the mirror and asked their child, “who’s that?”.

Based on reliable data from 16 of the infants, here is what the research found:

Infants 6-12 months: behaved as if there was another child in the mirror. They smiled at what they thought was the other child and made noises. They approached their reflection as a playmate.

Infants 13-24 months: displayed avoidance behaviors. They would cry or avoid looking in the mirror.

Infants 20-24 months: started to recognize themselves by pointing to and touching the spot of rouge on their own noses.

This was the first of many studies spanning decades of research on self recognition.

But what does this mean for us?

It tells us that at the age of two, our children are coming into their own. They are beginning to recognize themselves as independent, as people separate from us. Because of this, they will often push their limits and test their boundaries…as well as our own.

But this also tells us that their behavior is a completely NORMAL stage of development!

How can this behavior of meltdowns and tantrums that often inspire me to run to a corner and curl up into a fetal position be normal you say? I hear you. I’ve been there.

Here’s what has worked for me: breathing.

Not the breathing you do every single minute of the day, but a different kind of breathing. One that is deliberate and deep.

Let me explain.

When you are in a stressful situation, a part of your nervous system takes over called the sympathetic nervous system. This system activates your fight-or-flight response which makes your breathing shallow and rapid causing you to breathe from your chest and not your lungs.

When you instead breathe deeply, you can actually reverse this response by activating the parasympathetic nervous system. This system activates the vagus nerve, which slows down your heart rate and lowers your blood pressure. By using the abdominal muscles of your diaphragm instead of your chest muscles, you allow for greater air exchange thereby allowing more oxygen to reach the cells of your body.

The result?

A calmer, more relaxed you.

So in the midst of my daughter’s meltdowns, I first make sure that she is in a safe environment where she won’t physically hurt herself. Then, I let her have her meltdown and walk to the other corner of the room.

With one hand on my abdomen, I breathe in through my nose, allowing the air to go deep into my lungs. As I feel my abdomen rise, I pause for a minute and then exhale. As I exhale, I feel my abdominal muscles contract, releasing all the air from my lungs.

This whole process takes me literally less than a minute but when I return to the situation, I am in a state where I respond with a sense of calm instead of impulsively reacting.

This accomplishes two things: 1) By having no immediate reaction, I don’t provide my daughter any reinforcement for the behavior and 2) I respond with kindness instead of anger.

This technique is literally carrying me through this phase.

I have found that parenting is often not about changing our children, it’s about transforming ourselves.

And dear parents, remember that it is a phase. One day, we will be looking at our grown child and in the deep caverns of our heart, we will mourn the ephemerality of a glorious childhood.


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Becoming a parent has completely transformed me as a pediatrician. And I think it has a lot to do with perspective.

When I was finally able to walk in the shoes of the parents I talked to everyday, I saw the advice that I had been giving in a new light. My words connected more because of my new perspective as pediatrician and parent.

So I understand that as parents, we have all given our child some food that we probably shouldn’t have. The many nights that I served ice cream right before bedtime come to mind.

But time and time again, I have seen four foods given to toddlers that most parents understandably wouldn’t know were dangerous. And when I saw children end up in the hospital with severe complications after eating them, I wanted to make sure all parents knew about them.

So I wanted to take a few moments of your time dear fabulous reader to tell you about 4 surprising foods to avoid giving to your toddler and the reasons why:

1. Popcorn

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Seriously, who doesn’t love popcorn? With the right amount of butter, popcorn is totally addictive. But the popcorn kernel is a high choking risk for your toddler. Because a toddler’s windpipe can get as small as a diameter of a straw, it’s easy for small pieces like popcorn kernels to get lodged in your child’s respiratory system.

2. Grapes

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Grapes are kind of awesome. But whole grapes are not awesome for your toddler. Children younger than 4 years of age are still learning to chew properly before swallowing. Therefore, they often end up swallowing whole or un-chewed pieces of food. Whole grapes can easily get stuck in your child’s respiratory tract. The best way to give grapes to a child is to cut them length wise into small pieces no longer than half an inch. Or better yet, just avoid them.

3. Hot dogs

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Hot dogs are one of the leading causes of choking in children. Not only do they have poor nutritional value, but a hot dog is the perfect size and shape to block a child’s airway. If you are going to give your child a hot dog, make sure to first cut it into very small pieces before hand.

4. Nuts

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Nuts are hard enough to chew for adults and even harder for toddlers. And even after some initial chewing the sharp edges from the small pieces of nuts can lead to coughing, and a risk for aspiration. For this reason, I would not offer any kind of nuts to children younger than four. The risk just isn’t worth it and can lead to a nightmare trying to get all the small pieces out of the airway.

At the end of the day, no matter how careful we are, we simply cannot watch our children constantly. That is why I recommend that parents get CPR training so that in the unfortunate event that your child is in distress, you will be able to take life saving measures while calling 911.

The toddler years are a constant struggle to try to prevent them from eating everything in sight. But can you really blame them? That’s me on most days 🙂


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Have you ever thought about the person you used to be before you became a parent?

Sometimes when I’m sitting on the couch watching a show about college life or walking past a restaurant in the evening as friends gather for some weeknight revelry (as I head to bed at 8pm)–I get glimpses of the life I used to live.

In many ways, my life now is fuller, richer and filled with laughter. But with all the changes that arise as a result of parenthood, the one thing I wasn’t fully prepared for was how my friendships would change.

So if you are a new parent navigating through the seasons of change of your friendships–I’m going to show you that you are not alone. And if you are not a parent, but are friends with those who are, I’m going to give you some insight into their world.

Here are 3 ways my friendships completely changed when I became a parent:

1. My texting game is much stronger

Gone are the days of long, drawn out evening conversations on the couch. That’s almost impossible with a child who deserves your attention. Now one of those evening conversations happens over several days through texting. It’s the only time I can find between work and nap times. Sometimes if our schedules align, I feel lucky to have a real phone conversation with a friend during my evening commute back home.

The conversations may not happen in the same way, but I’m grateful that we can still have them.

2. I prefer brunching over partying

A typical weekend before kids would involve brunch in the morning, shopping in the afternoon and then going out at night. Hanging out with friends could be an all day affair.

But when you are a working parent, your weekend time is a precious commodity. You want to spend so much of it with your child and you also want to balance it with your friends.

Hanging out with friends can’t be a whole day affair anymore but you know what works really well? Brunch.

Not only can brunch be timed closer to nap time so that your spouse/partner can watch your child and you won’t be missing out on quality time with the little one–but it’s also the perfect amount of time to share stories and catch up.

I’ve found that as a parent, I much prefer time spent in meaningful conversation than time spent partying at a club. At this time in life, when I have to pick one or the other, I prefer brunching over partying.

3. I found my #squadgoals

I’m going to be completely honest here. Every parent at some point during parenthood has a moment when they miss the carefree person they used to be. Not that we don’t love being parents—my daughter is the light of my life–but when you spend so much of your life filling up the well of another, you sometimes forget to fill your own.

A couple of months ago, as I was driving home from working on the weekend, my mind started to race in the car. I was completely exhausted from working all the time and along with responsibilities at home–I started to miss those carefree days when I lived for weekend adventures and after work happy hours.

Amidst tears, I called a college friend, someone I have known for more than 15 years. After hearing the pain in my voice, she walked away from her own weekend brunch to talk to me.

Although she is not a parent yet, she sat beside me with my feelings. She gently reminded me of all the times I so desperately wanted to be a parent and about how blessed I was to have a healthy and joyful child. She told me that the carefree, fun person I used to be had never really left–that she sees that person in our silly conversations and in the ways I laugh and play with my daughter. One by one, she highlighted all the qualities that made me come alive and vibrant.

This is what a good friend does: she sits beside you in your darkness and reminds you of your light.

Everywhere on instagram and twitter I see this hashtag pop up called #squadgoals. Usually it’s people posting pictures of themselves with fabulous friends doing fabulous things.

And I’ve come to the conclusion that while my younger years were filled with having many friends and being ‘popular’, my friendships after parenthood are much more curated and carefully selected. Because time is limited now, I chose to spend it only with those who bring positivity and joy into my life.

My squad now is better than ever before. It’s much smaller and the time I spend with them is meaningful and filled with good intentions. Our shared goal is to lift each other up.

So yes, I do sometimes think about the person I used to be before I became a parent–but the person I am now is exactly who I want to be, spending time with the those I have always wanted to ride beside me.